Hey what’s up guys! Kathy Gibbens here…
I had to start today’s episode by sharing a review that my friend Corey left for me! Corey is also the host of the Diaries of High Achievers podcast and he said, “ Kathy is such a blessing when it comes to this! She’s helped me think deeply & differently for years. This is stuff we can’t find anywhere else!” Awww…thanks so much Corey! It means the world to me when you guys leave me reviews, and especially when friends do so!
Alright, so Welcome back to our 4-part mini-series: 4 Simple Tools for Brain Surgery. Today is part 2. In the last episode, I shared the first question (b/c the 4 tools are actually 4 questions) that I learned from Bill Jack of Worldview Academy and by the way, if you didn’t catch that episode, I’d encourage you to go listen to it now and then come back to this episode. It’ll make more sense that way. That’s Episode #70. Ok, so by way of quick review, the first question was: *pause* Yes, the dramatic pause is intention…do you remember? I want to see if you can remember what the first question was! The first question was “What do you mean by ____?” It’s asking for their definition. And here’s the thing…when you ask this question, it may be the first time they’ve ever been challenged or asked to define what they mean and they may have a hard time doing it! That’s ok, just ask the question and give them a chance to answer so you’re now at least on the same page.
Ok, now for question #2. And this one could be a tough one for them. It could even end the conversation, lol, so be prepared. But it’s such a good one and it’ll definitely get them thinking. Question #2 is:
“How do you know what you’re saying is true?” *repeat*
Now, why do we ask this question? How is this question getting them to do brain surgery on themselves? Why is this question so important?
This question is so important b/c it reveals what or who their authority is. Do they think it’s true b/c they saw it on a social media meme? B/c their parent’s said it’s true? B/c it ‘feels’ true to them? Do they think it’s true b/c they read it in a book somewhere? Which book? Do they think it’s true b/c society is saying it’s true? What or who is their authority? Oof, you guys…this one is a doozy. Lawyers do a version of this all the time when they’re presenting a case or defending their client. One way they do it is by calling into question the credibility of a source. If they can make the jury question the credibility of a particular source, they’re less likely to listen to or believe that source.
That’s what this question does. When you ask, “How do you know what you’re saying is true?” You’re asking the person to look at the credibility of their source. They may discover that the credibility of their source is solid & accurate, or they may discover that it’s not credible at all. But, the power in the “How do you know what you’re saying is true?” question is the fact that they're the ones doing the thinking and coming up with the answer…you’re not having to tell them their authority isn’t credible. The most powerful form of realization is self-realization!
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Ok, join me in the next episode for Question #3, and
Remember: When you learn HOW to think, you will no longer fall prey to those who are trying to tell you what THEY want you to think and it all starts with asking one simple question: “Is that really true?”
